“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.” -Tupac Shakur
Some say maturity comes with age. Some argue it is only through experience and growth and has no bearing on how long one has been here on Earth. I have concluded it is a balance of both, as balance pertains to almost everything in life. I will admit I have made A LOT of silly mistakes. Ones where I slap my wrist and shake my head in self-annoyance. A moment of “Why did I do that? Seriously?!” Two choices arise- harping on whatever occurred or learning and moving on with acquired knowledge. Never making the same mistake twice! Old habits do die hard but I feel I have grown the most in the past year, with a big part of it being circumstantial. I have been on my own since I was 17 so still going strong!
Figuring life out and accepting responsibility seems to happen in one’s 20’s so here I am. Argh! Sometimes I want to be a kid again for a day and watch Nickelodeon and eat ice cream. Those were the days! But then I remember how much fun I have now and what I have grown to learn so I can happily come back to reality.
Some things I’ve learned:
1. Save your $$$ – having a cushion for a rainy day makes the tension of paying bills subside pretty well. What grrl doesn’t love a shopping day at the mall?! Hard to resist the temporary satisfaction of retail therapy at times- trust me I know! But having money in the bank is a much greater and longer-lasting feeling. Oh, and investing too. I will tackle that soon.
2. Going back to school is an option even after years of absence – my goal in the next six years is to finish my Bachelor’s and Master’s Degree. In business and/or studio art. Even if it is for pure self-satisfaction. It is something I need to accomplish.
3. Sex gets better as you get older – I was a late bloomer but now feel I am reaching my sexual peak and yes! it is getting better and better. I also progressively want to delve deeper and am way more open to trying new things. Oh the possibilities…
4. Health is #1 – being stuck with one body for life is a harsh reality so I definitely make a conscious effort to take very good care of it. Dance classes keep me active and toned. I have recently been eating as many whole foods as possible. Gotta get those fruits and veggies.
Addendum: going to the grocery store is WAY cheaper than eating out every day. And learning how to cook is a lot of fun. It also helps me steer away from more easily-accessible junk food. Currently taking a local cooking class!
5. Be nice to everyone (including yourself) and don’t forget your manners – Say please and thank you. Those who feel appreciated will be willing to further the relationship and work harder in whatever capacity you’re working together. If a conflict arises, talking about the problem and possible solutions always ends up working. Don’t freak out! Also, if frustration is building or a wall of indecisiveness is present (i.e. writer’s block) give it a day or two to settle down and revisit what you were working on. Be kind to yourself. It helps!!
6. Quality is everything – don’t skimp on anything. Food, clothes, furniture, etc. Also as it pertains to posting stuff on social media and writing on any platform. Think before the “post” button is clicked. Having a solid platform will last a lifetime.
P.S. Richard Avery has taught me a thing or two about this thing called life. I owe him a yummy triple chocolate milkshake!!